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Unhappiness, says bestselling author Harriet Lerner, is fueled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame. They are the uninvited guests in our lives. When tragedy or hardship hits, they may become our constant companions.
Anxiety can wash over us like a tidal wave or operate as a silent thrum under the surface of our daily lives. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us. We learn:
- how a man was "cured in a day" of the fear of rejection -- and what we can learn from his story
- how the author overcame her dread of public speaking when her worst fears were realized
- how to deal with the fear of not being good enough, and with the shame of feeling essentially flawed and inadequate
- how to stay calm and clear in an anxious, crazy workplace
- how to manage fear and despair when life sends a crash course in illness, vulnerability, and loss
- how "positive thinking" helps -- and harms
- how to be our best and bravest selves, even when we are terrified and have internalized the shaming messages of others
No one signs up for anxiety, fear, and shame, but we can’t avoid them either. As we learn to respond to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully in the present and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope. Fear and Other Uninvited Guests shows us how.
Dr. Harriet Lerner, one of our nation’s most loved and respected relationship experts and the author of the classic work The Dance of Anger is back with her new book, Fear and Other Uninvited Guests: Tackling the Anxiety, Fear, and Shame That Keep Us from Optimal Living and Loving. Dr. Lerner shows how fear, anxiety, and shame are the three main culprits behind almost all of the problems that people seek psychological help for-or fail to. Using her wonderfully rich and therapeutic voice, she teaches how we can be our best and bravest selves, even when our hearts are filled with fear and we internalize the shaming messages of others. With examples that run the gamut from the hilarious to the sobering, Dr. Lerner teaches us how to spot and decode the hidden mischief of these discomforting emotions that hold us back in both love and work, and dare to become more powerful than the uninvited guests.
